Fluidity Of Circumstances

Hey everyone and welcome to the 12th level of Jumanji also better known as December! I pray that you and your family are safe during these uncertain times. I know life has been hitting us at different speeds and times and we are all trying our best to adjust to whatever the new normal is. Of course over the last few months we have seen on social media people saying things going back to normal. My thing is what may be normal to you before may not be normal to someone else. Honestly, there was nothing normal to start and whatever we were dealing with prior I hope it got resolved. The reason for that is because anything that held us back, distracted us, took us off our path etc. cannot and really shouldn’t come along with you going into 2021. It's all about creating new you-healthy patterns, relationships, ways of living more abundantly and most importantly having a greater understanding, appreciation and love for self. Before I go ham into the topic I always state my disclaimer: understand that you are the only expert when it comes to you! Make sure the change you do is solely based on your own thinking and on no other influences. No one has to live in your body, mind and spirit so only allow those things that are qualified to invoke a greater change in you. Remember you are your own solution and problem so it will always begin and end with you!

We often see or even hear when there is a situation or problem we are taught to of course go to God, let it go, pray without ceasing etc because we know there is nothing too big too hard for God and my favorite and probably yours too is: go with the flow! One should ask how can you go with the flow and be fluid when the situation is difficult and you're constantly in the process of looking for a solution? Sometimes it can be a challenge to locate the flow due to some blockages- some self inflicted and some not. To be fluid or become fluid one has to go through a transition of feeling versus thinking. Sometimes you can't always trust what you think because you may think that the situation is too hard and in actuality it isn’t! Hence you made a mountain out of a molehill. Once in a circumstance you have two options: you can either try and look at all perspectives and discover why you are feeling the way you feel. Process it by using emotional intelligence so you do not overreact or misspeak or allow your ego to take over the circumstance and completely miss the chance of coming to a solution. So choose ye this day? As it says in the good book because you cannot serve two masters. Another way of looking at a circumstance is this: what am I learning from this? And what changes do I see myself making on a positive note? One of the key things that I feel is that your perspective of the situation and what initial feelings ( preconceived notions) are emerging. We have all done it where something negative has happened then we attached whatever negative feelings to it so if it comes up again we become triggered. Understand that triggers are a part of life however it is left up to you how much you let the trigger control the circumstance or outcome. To become more fluid I would suggest dealing with the trigger: identify who, what, when, where and how then the next approach is working towards healing yourself. It’s due to the fact that the trigger will come up again but if you have done the healing work it will not take over!

Just a few personal suggestions to assist in becoming more fluid or like my man Bruce Lee said

“ Empty your mind...be formless...shapeless...like water…”

1. Develop a self-care routine that is more than just getting your hair, feet and toes done. There is nothing wrong in pampering yourself but you want to work on more the internal than the external.

2. If you haven’t started journaling you definitely should! Journaling is that silent therapist that we at times need. It can assist with your happiness and level out your stress and anxiety as well as coping with depression. For myself when I write it down it makes it more real and concrete and not in my head anymore.

3. Reconnect with nature- take short walks and get that much needed fresh air and sun when permitting.

4. Consider your circle of friends- gotta make sure that is healthy and positive for you and a safe place.

5. Make sure your self-talk is top notch! God thinks very highly of you so be kind to yourself at any time you are transitioning. We are all going to make mistakes so do not crucify yourself but always look for the lesson and the blessing!

6. Increase your water intake can significantly increase your energy and decrease mental confusion hence allowing you to flow and be more fluid in making better decisions for yourself in different circumstances.

7. Do not be afraid to seek out a therapist. It will be the most rewarding thing you will do for yourself. The power in that ONE change will change your life!

On that note I will end with this: know that you are loved above and beyond! That your existence is appreciated and noticed. You play a significant role in everyone’s lives you have touched. You matter, you are important and you are dope af! Remember to be good to yourself and others and always #LiveLifePositive.

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